“It’s 4 o’clock in the morning. I’m still staring at the TV screen without really watching. Instead, I’m thinking. Thinking about every possible thing a human mind can. Eventually, I dream and make plans for the future, but I have no clue on how to get there. As a result despair and stress hit me. Finally, after some more exhausting thinking, I get tired and sleep. That usually happens around 6 to 7 o’ clock in the morning. Needless to say, I feel stressed even during my sleep (if we can call sleep that thing I do). And when I finally manage to wake up in the middle of the day, I feel extremely tired. I go to work from 5 to 10 pm and repeat that extremely interesting and fulfilling program of my life. Of course, that isn’t even close to the life I dream of.”
Unfortunately, the story I just told you was my reality for a quite long period of time during my college years. I couldn’t find a way out of this loop. I felt trapped in this job that I hated doing, I realized I wasn’t a fan of the field I decided to study on, I wasn’t happy with my relationship and some of the people I had in my life and so on. I could pretty much make an endless list with all the “first world problems” I had to face and kept postponing the steps towards my dreams for a happier life. I thought the right thing was to stay inactive until all the “problems” vanished and the perfect moment magically appeared to me and changed all that. But, I learned that there is no such thing as a perfect moment or a perfect chance. It’s us that we turn the moment into the perfect chance. And finally, after being so bored of this life I kept living, I came to realize that.
I’m sure many of you could have reached a point in your life that you felt the same way. And you shouldn’t beat your self up for that. It can happen to everyone. Even the most successful people can feel lost. If you feel sad, melancholic, tired of your life and don’t see where to start making a change, I think I have some tips to help you start feeling motivated and energetic! I’m not going to lie. It’s not easy (especially at the beginning), but with every new little or big goal you achieve, your confidence and energy will start rising again! Happiness and fulfillment are going to be back and you will start living your best life!
Ways To Restart Your Life
Before I share with you the ways to restart your life, you first need to accept that it has gone completely off track and makes you feel unhappy. Then, you can start changing it! You can alter your diet, set new goals, find a job that makes you happy, start exercising, change your look, etc.
The most important step, in my opinion, is exercise. While exercising, endorphins are released, so your mood becomes better. I won’t lie. The first days might seem like a nightmare. You probably feel that you can’t even bring yourself to go to the gym or outside for a walk at the first place. I totally get it, but if you are determined and want to change the track your life has taken, then you need to do it whatever it takes. The good part? The sore muscles and low energy levels will disappear and will get easier day by day. You will most likely reach a point that you can’t live without it, since you will realize it makes you feel happy! Not to mention the benefits in your health and the (superficial, yet true) change in your appearance for the best.
My story: The first days, going to the gym was a real struggle. I even had days that my mood was not at its best and I would find excuses to skip it. Since I didn’t have any self-discipline I knew I had to find a solution. After following an inconsistent program for a while, I came with the idea of hiring a personal trainer. This way I wouldn’t give myself the chance to skip it. That tactic worked perfectly and exercising turned to become something I enjoy doing and can’t live without. The best part? Apart from the improvement of my health and mood, my confidence changed too. I know it might sound a bit superficial, but when you see your body toned and healthy your opinion about it changes too! So next time you ask yourself why to start exercising remember all those benefits!
Change your diet
The next step after you start exercising is to improve your eating habits (of course in case they are bad). There are a lot of temptations out there when it comes to food. All it takes is just a visit to the supermarket and you can feel hungry asap. From “delicious” pre-cooked meals to tasty desserts and snacks, it’s not hard to get off track. We all want to make our lives easier so a ready to eat meal sounds pretty good. You might not always be in the mood or don’t have the time to cook, so a quick snack indeed sounds ideal. But, before you succumb to it, think about all the effort you are putting when you go to the gym. Isn’t it a pity to let it go to waste? However, some meal planning (not something too strict), will save you time and be useful in the difficult time of a craving. You will probably be “saved” before you take a spoon and eat all the Nutella directly from the jar. If you combine proper eating with exercising you will see your body change and your energy levels will rise. In my opinion, healthy eating and exercising are the two sides of the same coin. In order to stay motivated, I suggest rewarding yourself for every eating goal you reach (not with food of course 😛 ). Your healthy and toned body is also a great reward, but it requires a little more patience.
My story: My diet was not even near the word “good”. I would eat every unhealthy snack that existed out there in just an hour or I wouldn’t eat at all in a whole day. Of course, then I would feel bad and guilty and swore to stop doing this to myself. Unfortunately, my everyday routine required more dedication in order to change that diet. So, that kept going for a while until I reached the point where I was disgusted by me. My face was full of breakouts (I never had breakouts in my life before, not even as a teenager), my energy and concentration levels were below zero and so did my mood. It was in that moment that I realized I needed to take care of my health because no one else will (nor has to) do it for me. It is my responsibility and if I want to live a better life, I’ll have to do it. The thing that helps me most to follow this decision is exercising. Every time I feel lazy to cook and ready to succumb to my old eating habits I remember all the hard work I put in the gym. It would be a pity to throw it away just for a weak moment that will go away if I show some self-control. And this is how I go on. Of course, I haven’t reached my goal yet, but with every day passing, I’m one step closer!
Wake up early
Did you know that waking up early can enhance your productivity? That alone is a very good reason to become an early riser, but there are even more benefits to it. First of all, it helps you sustain a healthier diet. People that don’t wake up early tend to skip breakfast because of the lack of time. Also, when you don’t wake up early you probably are in a rush and that as a result can increase your stress levels. Last but not least, it is better to exercise in the morning because it can take away the morning sleepiness and make you feel more energetic. And as we all know, the way your day starts can affect the rest of it. So the better your morning starts, the better your day will be!
My story: Well, I admit I still haven’t managed to make it an everyday habit of mine and there are days I need to hit that snooze button many times before I manage to snap out of bed. I know that’s because I occasionally still stay up late (this blog is mostly written in the quiet and late hours when all my daily tasks are completed), so it’s very hard to wake up having only 4 or 5 hours of sleep. However, I have done some decent progress so far, even though I haven’t reached my final goal yet.
I have some tips that can make waking up early way easier:
First of all, I set up the time I want to wake up and I aim to be in bed at least 8 hours before. Secondly, I arrange all my personal training sessions in the morning. This way I have no excuse to miss exercising as well as hitting the snooze button. If you don’t have a personal trainer do that with a friend or choose a morning class (many gyms have those). If you are new to waking up early I suggest to do it gradually. Set the timer every day 15 minutes earlier until you reach the goal you have set. It’s much easier this way and more likely you’ll be able to commit to it. Last, write and have on your bedside table a thing that makes you excited for tomorrow. It will be the first thing you see in the morning and maybe will give you one more reason to get up immediately.
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