Hello guys! How are you doing? If you’ve been following me for a while you’ll know that in the previous post we talked about some ways to restart your life. That was only a part of them, so I kept my promise and now I’m posting the second part on how to restart your life. However, if you are new here and wonder why would anyone need to hit the reset button, let me give you some reasons.
Since we are all human beings, we make mistakes. Making mistakes mostly means that things don’t go our way. A “wrong” choice can make you feel bad, unhappy and stressed because your life isn’t on the path you wished for. Then you can lose your motivation and focus, forgetting about your goals and just let every day pass by without actually living and enjoying it. And you pretty much feel like a total failure and can’t seem to find a way out, am I right? The good news is that you are not the only one. We all will or have already failed at some point in our lives. But failing means trying, so you should be proud that you tried. It doesn’t matter that you made the wrong choice. You just have to get up and make more wrong choices until you make the right ones. No one chooses “correct” from the first trial. The only thing you need is the right attitude. Giving your self a second chance actually means that you give your self the opportunity to get past all the previous failures and try again. Until you get where you want. And there is no doubt that if you try hard, you will get there.
If this sounds familiar, I think we can move on to my tips on how to restart your life. You can always go read the first part and come back later. There you’ll find my story, the reasons why I felt the need to do it and how I achieved it.
How To Restart Your Life
On the previous post, we talked about the benefits of exercising, changing your diet and waking up early. These alone are a perfect place to start, but I have some additional tips that can help even further.
Set up Goals
Some underestimate them, but they have a lot of benefits when it comes to productivity and results. First of all, they motivate you and give you a reason to finish a certain task that needs to be done. So next time you do something you are not a huge fan of, remember the goal you have set and the reason you need to keep doing it. Also, when you have a goal you don’t just live your life wandering between choices. Instead, you have a purpose and any decision-making is easier for you since you need to choose the option that will bring you closer to your goal. Last but not least, having goals creates accountability. Not to anyone else, but yourself. And being accountable to your self can have a positive impact on your confidence. Think of how great you’ll feel when you start crossing some of your goals off your list!
My story: As long as I remember myself, thinking about the future is about the same image. But not something specific, not even a way of how to get there. So for a really long time, I wandered between choices that turned out to be meaningless and didn’t seem to bring me there, not even a step closer. Recently, I decided to try setting some goals, making them more specific than a general image, and, surprisingly enough, I have crossed some out! Not even half of them, but I think it’s a good start! At least now I know what I want, so I only need to find the steps that will get me there.
Extra tip: I like to take goal setting one step further, by having an everyday “TO-DO” list. This way I feel more productive and I don’t do random stuff, nor do I forget things. Not to mention the satisfaction when I cross them out! Of course, if I’m not in the mood or don’t have time for something, I just transfer it to the next day’s “TO-DO”.
Cut off the negative people
You are trying to make a serious change in your life and the last thing you need is negativity. One important step is to beware of the people who sap you of your energy. You are already dealing with a lot of things and negativity is the last thing you need. Has it ever crossed your mind that maybe they even played a little role in the rat position you are now? If you are lucky they will choose to leave before you cut them off and that can save you a lot of trouble. However if not, take this option into your own hands and finish it with success. As an extra bonus of cutting them off, you will make space for the positive people to be in your life. Having said that let me share my story.
My story: Sometimes the people you feel are right for you and refuse to live without are the biggest energy suckers. Their attitude, choices, and actions can hurt you so much. But even then, you still think they deserve your attention and you are afraid to cut them off your life. Unfortunately, that is what I did for quite some time. I used to be surrounded by this type of people and the only thing I gained was sadness and the feeling of not being good enough to hang around them. I knew it was something wrong and cruel to do to myself and yet, I kept hoping that they would change. Occasionally I felt I wasn’t enough to deserve their attention, company and even their respect.
The silver lining to this story is that when they weren’t into my life anymore, I felt so much happier. My self-confidence started to rise again, I felt energetic, creative and I made space for amazing people that love, help and support me in any crazy idea I might have. They also make me laugh a lot (seriously A LOT) and I love all of them for that. So, I suggest you surround your self with people you feel happy and comfortable around. Your life will change drastically in a good way!
(Disclaimer: In my opinion, we can’t label people as “negative” or “positive”. They just happen to be identified as “good” or “bad” from our point of view. So when I say “negative”, I only mean people that their acts keep you behind, make you feel sad, your characters and tastes don’t align, you give a lot and take very little or nothing in return, you feel they are unsupportive, etc.)
Get out of your comfort zone
If you haven’t gotten out of it yet, I suggest doing it as soon as possible. The sense of freedom and the satisfaction you’ll feel can’t be compared to anything else! But what exactly is the comfort zone? A comfort zone is a space where our activities and behaviors are in a routine that minimizes stress and risk of something bad happening to us. But in order to leave this steady situation and move forward, we need to get off this space. It’s proven scientifically that a little amount of stress is necessary to help us be more productive and move forward with our lives. That is just a step outside of our comfort zone. Now that we made that clear, let me tell you some more benefits of stepping out of your comfort zone. Apart from your increased productivity, you will be ready to deal with unexpected situations more calmly and easily than before. Nothing will be able to surprise you and increase your anxiety levels to the maximum. Also, by getting out of your comfort zone you face the unknown. Facing something new can lead to mistakes. But making mistakes leads to learning new things and that is a huge benefit for your growth and transformation. Last, my favorite part is the sense of self-confidence. When you manage to let go of the fear of doing something and manage to get out of it alive you’ll feel strong, proud and brave and next time you’ll need to leave your comfort zone you’ll be more confident and not that scared.
Now that we made that clear, let me tell you some more benefits of stepping out of your comfort zone. Apart from your increased productivity, you will be ready to deal with unexpected situations more calmly and easily than before. Nothing will be able to surprise you and increase your anxiety levels to the maximum. Also, by getting out of your comfort zone you face the unknown. Facing something new can lead to mistakes. But making mistakes leads to learning new things and that is a huge benefit for your growth and transformation. Last, my favorite part is the sense of self-confidence. When you manage to let go of the fear of doing something and manage to get out of it alive you’ll feel strong, proud and brave and next time you’ll need to leave your comfort zone you’ll be more confident and not that scared.
My story: I’m pretty much a chicken when it comes to facing things that will make me feel uncomfortable. One stupid fear of mine is that when I travel and I’m away from home, something bad will happen to my family and I won’t be able to be there and help. I’ve declined a lot of opportunities to travel because of that. And honestly? I regret it so much! However, I now push myself to do it when the chance presents itself, no matter how anxious I feel the day before I go. Every time it’s the same fear, but I love so much to travel and I’m not letting this stop me from enjoying my trip. My best memories are from vacations with my friends and I wouldn’t change that for anything. There are a lot more things that I wouldn’t even dare to think about doing, but when I put myself through them and manage to continue my life as normal, I feel extremely happy and proud. You will never know how strong and capable you are until you face some situations that bring you in uncomfortable positions.
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Find a Hobby
Many people might underestimate the value of it. But having a hobby is like giving yourself the chance of a happier life. And, that’s the main purpose of a hobby. To make you happy. If that reason isn’t enough by itself, let me tell you that through a hobby you can meet new people, express yourself, relax, feel calmer and even discover new opportunities or find a hidden talent you had within you all these years. It can be an activity you always look forward to and gives you a reason to wake up in the morning even on the days you feel so tired. In our fast-paced society, we all need to get away sometimes and let some steam off in order to maintain our mental health. Plus, you don’t lay your eggs in one basket, so if something goes wrong you always have your hobby.
My story: I always had hobbies that changed through the pass of time, but my mum used to think of them as a “waste of time” and opportunities for me not to study for school. The truth is I hated studying and my hobbies were my getaway. Now, in my adult life, I have more things I’m not a fan of doing, so my need for a hobby is urgent. My current two hobbies are exercising and writing on this blog. Exercising kept me sane for months during a really stressful job. It was my getaway and the thing I was looking forward to every day after the end of my working hours. Lately, I have discovered a new hobby which I love so far and is this blog. It gave me the opportunity to combine all the things that express me. Creativity, fashion and helping people through my personal advice. I have no idea where it will lead me, but I’m looking forward to discovering!
I hope all the tips on how to restart your life are as helpful to you as they were to me!
see you soon <3